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Inner Critic or Inner Coach?

Which voice do you listen to; your inner critic or your inner coach? The inner critic is that little voice in our head that tells us we’re not good enough, that we can’t do it, that we’re a fraud. And while that voice can be helpful at times, it often holds us back from achieving our goals and dreams.

But what if we could turn that inner critic into our inner coach? What if we could learn to appreciate and even embrace that voice instead of trying to silence it?

Growing up, I remember my father being critical of me. If I didn’t do well in school, he would be disappointed. If I made a mistake, he would point it out.

I remember being ridiculed by my father at the dinner table for voicing my opinion.  His standard answer was, “you’ve got rocks in your head.”

As a result, I always felt like I was never good enough. These critical words from my father hurt my self-esteem and caused me to doubt myself.

I realized when I was older, that my father’s critical words were not meant to hurt me.  He thought he was toughening me up and pushing me to be my best.

However, the damage had already been done; my inner critic was well ingrained in my psyche. To this day, I catch myself listening to my inner critic and often second-guessing my abilities. I know I’m not alone in this experience.

The voice of your inner critic is often harsh and cruel, but it’s just a thought. You can change how you think about yourself by acknowledging your Inner Critic’s existence and giving it a name. 

Inner Critic Taskmaster

I named my inner critic “The Taskmaster.” This voice tells you that you’re never good enough and should always strive for more.

My Taskmaster was always telling me what I ‘should’ be doing, and he was never satisfied. He’s the kind who would nitpick every little thing and find something to complain about no matter what.

The first step in transforming your inner critic is to become aware of it. Acknowledge that this voice exists and that it has been causing you pain.

Once you’ve done that, you can begin to detach from it. See it for what it is—an inner saboteur that doesn’t have your best interests at heart.

Listen to what it’s saying and why it’s saying it. Is it trying to protect you from something? Is it afraid of change? Once you become aware of your inner critic, you can start questioning its motivation.

Being kind to yourself is also essential – give yourself permission to make mistakes. Practice self-compassion and recognize that we all have flaws, and that’s okay.

And most importantly, challenge your negative thoughts with evidence to the contrary.

The Inner Coach

The inner coach is the voice that encourages and supports you, no matter what. The inner coach is your spiritual connection. It’s the part of you that’s always with you, knows the truth, and provides guidance in difficult times.

It’s the voice of intuition and conscience, and it’s always there to help you find your way when you’re lost or confused.

The inner coach reminds you that you’re not alone, that someone is watching out for you and guiding you on your journey. When you learn to listen to its voice, it can be a powerful ally in your quest for peace and happiness.

Your inner coach is a spiritual guide that helps you access the power and peace of your True Nature. It’s the part of you that is always calm, clear, and connected to the Source of all Life.

When you learn to quiet the mind and connect with your inner coach, you’ll find that you have all the wisdom and guidance you need to make decisions that align with your highest good.

Your inner coach is always with you and always available to help you achieve your life purpose and your highest potential. All you must do is listen to its guidance and be willing to follow its instructions.

Final Thoughts

Eckhart Tolle said, “the primary cause of unhappiness is not the situation but your thoughts about it.”

I am learning to control my thoughts. I can say from experience, that your inner critic voice begins to calm down and eventually be silenced. It takes practice, but it’s definitely possible!

Further Reading… Stop Feeling You’re Bad!


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