REBOOT YOUR LIFE
If you’re human you have experienced outside elements that force you to make major changes in your lifestyle, your career, your relationships, etc. Major changes expected or unexpected can either crush you or motivate you to reinvent yourself.
If you didn’t cause the change, then you’re not responsible. You just have to do your best and do a reboot.
But what about changing our life when things are going well, and your life is pretty secure? In your heart you want to make a change, but…
You can spend your life playing it safe. There’s nothing wrong with that. But if you’re feeling unfulfilled and have idea, concept, or vision that has been percolating in your mind, then playing it safe may lead to an unhappy life with regrets when you look back.
Is it really possible to reinvent yourself?
Yes, it is possible. Your values and beliefs change as you grow. What you believed in your twenties, may look a lot different in your thirties or fifties.
Arnold Schwarzenegger is an example of someone who has made two huge career changes. In his twenties he was Mr. Olympia the world class body builder. Then reinvented himself into a Hollywood super star in his thirties. He was 56 when he became Governor of California.
Vera Wang began as a figure skater and then became a journalist. She transitioned to the fashion world at age 40 and you know the rest of the story. She’s now a one of the most famous fashion designers in the world.
Julia Child is an amazing story of reinvention. She started out working in advertising and media. She even worked in secret intelligence. At age 49 she authored her first cookbook and launched her first TV show at age 50 and became an international celebrity chef.
Harland Sanders inspired me. At age 62 he started his first Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC) franchise. I was the same age when I founded and built a successful business in Philadelphia. You can reinvent yourself at any age.
Professor Ravenna Helson from UC Berkeley, states “We have to modify our identities as we go through life.” Professor Helson studied for fifty years, the personal development of 120 women. The Professor’s research found that “positive personality change” is possible throughout life, even up to and over the age of 60. (1)
So, it makes sense that we grow, develop, and sometimes find ourselves unsatisfied with our current situation. As we grow and move through life we learn and evolve. We become dissatisfied with the same ol’ same ol’.
Tony Robbins is quoted in Success Magazine, “I think reinvention is not so much about changing the appearance of things,” Robbins says. “It’s about connecting with a deeper part of yourself. Who are you really? What are you made for? What are you here for?”
Making a change can be scary. It’s natural to hesitate or procrastinate. The fact that you’re reading this indicates that you’re probably considering a change or, at least, you are not satisfied with your present status.
What would it be like to realize that dream? Maybe you’ve had this inner desire to be an author, an inventor, an entrepreneur. Maybe you’ve dreamed of opening a hair salon or you’ve had thoughts about going out on the speaker’s circuit. But then you ask yourself, what will my family, friends and colleagues think? Then you start to question, will I really enjoy this new thing? Do I really want to lose my secure identity? Am I fooling myself?
When you think of re-shuffling your life, it is kind of scary. The more you think about it, the more unsettling it becomes, so you put it in the back of your mind.
You can begin the process or reinvention without it being overwhelming. Start by taking the first step. It can be something as simple as creating an inventory or your strengths, abilities, and your resources. Or write a table of contents of your life story. Each chapter could be a stage in your life and a vision of the future. Turn off the TV and spend a couple hours each night writing and visualizing or imagining your future.
Once you have a clear vision of your desired outcome, then take the next step. That could be something as non-threatening as taking an online course or joining interactive mastermind groups offline or online that you can use as a sounding board. They may actually see you more clearly than you see yourself.
Find one person that will commit to be an active listener and support you and challenge you. This can be a coach or someone from your group. This has been extremely helpful for me. I have been in mastermind groups and have use a life and business coach. I’m glad I did, because they helped me avoid some pitfalls that I was about to take. I can’t emphasize enough the need for a coach or a committed support person.
It’s important to not make drastic changes until you have a truly focused mind set. It may take you a couple years or more to really discover who you want to become and develop a plan that is well thought out and achievable. Once you have your strategic plan and have the proper mind set, then it’s time to execute the plan.
I have to remind myself that it’s not about reaching a destination but more about enjoying the journey. No one really fails. It’s all part of the journey.
“Each of us have two lives and the second life begins when we realize we only have one.” Confucius
If you’re ready for the next chapter in your life, the Reinvent Yourself hypnosis audio will help you explore alternative realities, rehearsing how they’ll make you feel so you’re confident about taking action.