Are you one of those people who are constantly worried about the outcome of things? Do you find yourself obsessing over what might happen, even when there’s nothing you can do to change it? If so, you’re not alone. A lot of people struggle with letting go of outcomes.
But here’s the thing: obsessing over the outcome is a waste of time. You can’t control what will happen, no matter how hard you try. So why bother worrying about it? Instead, focus on what you can control – your actions and reactions. Let go of the outcome and enjoy the journey instead.
1. Understand that some things are out of your control
When working on a project, it’s essential to focus on the outcome. But sometimes, we put too much emphasis on the end result and lose sight of the journey. If we can let go of the outcome, we can enjoy the process more and appreciate the moments along the way.
When you’re focused on the end goal, it can be easy to get frustrated or overwhelmed if something doesn’t go according to plan. But if you’re flexible and open to change, then any setback can be seen as an opportunity for growth. Practice letting go of outcomes and enjoy the ride!
“Letting go is like the sudden sensation of an inner pressure or the dropping of a weight. It is accompanied by a sudden feeling of relief and lightness, with an increased happiness and freedom. It is an actual mechanism of the mind.”David R. Hawkins — Letting Go: The Pathway to Surrender
2. Don’t dwell on what you can’t change
We all have moments where we dwell on things that we can’t change. Maybe we’ve fought with a loved one, and we keep replaying the conversation in our head, or maybe there’s something at work that’s just not going the way we want it to.
Whatever it is, these thoughts tend to drag us down and make us feel frustrated, helpless, and unhappy. So how can we deal with them? The answer is simple: don’t dwell on what you can’t change. Instead, focus on the here and now and the things you can control. This may not be easy at first, but it will become easier with practice, and you’ll start to feel more optimistic.
3. Let go of the need for perfectionism
Did you know that one of the main reasons people don’t achieve their goals is because they are perfectionists? They get stuck in this never-ending cycle of procrastination and self-doubt, always convinced that their work isn’t good enough. The good news is that there is a way to break free.
Perfectionism is a mindset. A mindset can be changed.
It takes practice. Obsessing over the outcome is a waste of time. By observing your thoughts, you can retrain your brain. Being aware and paying attention to thoughts beginning with should, must, and always.
When you catch these thoughts, take a moment and relax with a few deep breaths. Think thoughts of gratitude and laugh at your mistakes. When you hear the inner critic in your mind, have a little laugh and tell it to get lost.
4. Practice self-compassion
Be kinder to yourself when you’re struggling. We all have a little voice inside our heads that can be critical and mean. Learning to be more self-compassionate can help us quiet that voice.
In our society, self-compassion is often seen as a weakness. We are taught to be hard on ourselves, to push ourselves to be better. But what if we instead treated ourselves with the same kindness and compassion that we so freely give to others?
Research shows that self-compassion can have powerful effects on our wellbeing – improving our mental health, relationships, and overall quality of life. So how can we learn to be more compassionate towards ourselves?
1) Recognize your humanity: We all make mistakes and have flaws. Be gentle with yourself when you mess up – remember that you are only human. 2) Don’t dwell on your shortcomings.
5. Embrace uncertainty
There is something incredibly freeing about embracing uncertainty. It takes us out of the need to control everything and puts us in touch with the unknown. When we let go of needing to know what will happen, we open ourselves up to new possibilities.
So often in our lives, we can get caught up in controlling everything. We want to know what will happen next so that we can plan for it and be prepared. But the truth is that life is unpredictable and uncertain. The more we try to control it, the more anxious and stressed we become.
Learning how to embrace uncertainty can be a powerful tool for reducing stress and anxiety.
There is nothing more freeing than letting go of outcomes. When we let go of our attachments, expectations, and need to control, we open ourselves up to a world of possibilities. Instead of being bogged down by unnecessary baggage, we can finally enjoy the journey. So let’s take a deep breath and let go… together!
A helpful audio download: “How to Go With the Flow”
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