Steps to Feeling Good About Yourself
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5 Hints You May Have Low Self-Esteem
How do you feel about yourself? Do you measure yourself in relation to others? Do you feel that others are superior to you? If you do, you most likely have low self-esteem. This can include feeling anxious and lacking confidence.
This is not a productive way to live. You are not “your story.” You are much more than the false story you believe about yourself.
From a young age, we are taught to measure ourselves in relation to others.
Katie had always been a bright student, but her self-esteem was low. This caused her to hesitate before answering questions in class, even if she knew the answer. The professor asked a question on this particular day, and Katie could tell that most of the students didn’t know the answer.
She was about to raise her hand when she hesitated, thinking about how embarrassed she would be if she got the question wrong. She looked around the room and saw that everyone’s eyes were on her. The professor called on another student, and Katie felt relieved.
Katie had been to a therapist who diagnosed her having low self-esteem. The therapist told her she needed to love herself. The problem, according to Katie; the therapist didn’t tell her how to love herself.
If you’re not feeling good about yourself, it can be tough to make progress in any area of your life.
We’ve all been there. That feeling of self-doubt, not being good enough, and constantly putting ourselves down. We convince ourselves that we’re just not worth it and that someone else could do it better.
Low self-esteem is something that a lot of us struggle with at one point or another in our lives, and it can be tough to overcome. But don’t worry, you’re not alone!
5 Hints You May Have low self-esteem if:
1) You often feel down or negative about yourself.
2) You don’t feel confident in your abilities or talents.
3) You compare yourself negatively to others.
4) You have a lot of self-doubts and find it hard to trust your own judgment.
5) You put a lot of pressure on yourself to be perfect.
So How Can You Love Yourself? Here are 5 steps to get you on track:
- Remember your accomplishments. When you’re feeling down about yourself, it can be helpful to remember all of the things you’ve done well in your life. Make a list of your accomplishments and read them over when you’re feeling down.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. This is one of the worst things you can do for your self-esteem. Everyone is different, so comparisons are unfair and unhelpful.
- Think positively about yourself. It might be hard at first but try to think positively about yourself even when you don’t feel like it. One thing I have found helpful is to meditate on “I am” statements. Example: ‘I am worthy’ — ‘I am loved’ — ‘I am confident’ — ‘I am brave’ — ‘I am intelligent.’
- Forgive Yourself. Stop magnifying your failures and any faults. Of course, we should acknowledge when we screw up or hurt someone. But often, we aren’t fair with ourselves. We beat ourselves up for things that we did innocently, with good intentions.
In this well-known scripture: “love your neighbor AS YOURSELF”, we are called to love our neighbor, but if you don’t love yourself, you can’t love your neighbor. So, forgive yourself, and be fair to yourself. You are worthy to be loved.
- Speak Your Mind! Keep in mind that there is no shame in having low self-esteem – it’s something that many people struggle with at some point in their lives. The important thing is to recognize the problem and address it. So, if any of these points resonate with you, don’t hesitate to seek out help from a therapist or counselor.
Low self-esteem is a result in most cases from conditioning.
If you were bullied in school, or your parents were critical of you, or they insulted you, then the negative messages about you become part of the script we replay in our minds over time.
When that happens, say ‘Stop! Whose voice am I listening to?’
If you’re feeling down on yourself, don’t worry – there are ways to boost your self-esteem. First and foremost, learn how to love yourself. Accepting and appreciating who you are is the key to building healthy self-esteem. Once you have that foundation, start working on some of the tips we shared in this post. Small steps can make a big difference over time!
How will you work on improving your self-esteem? You may find this course on Self Esteem helpful.
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